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Things to Consider if Your Co-Parent is Not Cooperating
(provided by Shannon Bonkrude, M.S.)
1. Always be aware of your behavior first. Ask yourself "Am I acting in the best interest of my child?" Read the Parent's Promise.
2. Tell your child you love them through your actions and your words on a consistent basis. Give yourself reminders if you need to.
3. Spend as much quality time as you can with your child.
4. Have formal agreements (like Parenting Plans) with your ex-partner. Fulfill your part of the agreement.
5. Do not speak negatively of your ex-partner to your children. You can, however, be truthful (i.e., I know it is frustrating when Mom/Dad cancels at the last minute).
6. Remember that a parent who is negative and degrading the other parent, does not look favorably in the child's eyes. Once they can understand, they will judge you by your actions and your words, not by what the other parent says.
7. Do whatever you need to do to remain calm in the presence of your ex-partner. Not reacting to them takes steam out of their purpose (which may be to frustrate you).
8. Always remember that conflict is the most difficult thing for children to see occurring between the two people that they love the most. However, children need both parents, so do not avoid your child because you wish to avoid your ex-partner.
Information provided by:
Shannon Bonkrude, M.S. located at
http://www.lifethreads.net
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