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Parents Living in Different States
(provided by Theodore Sliwinski, Esq.)
1. What happens when a couple has a child and they both live in different states?
When parents who live in two different states and they want to make their custody arrangement into a formal court order, or when they need to resolve a dispute about custody or visitation parenting time, then it may be very difficult to determine which state court should handle the case. In short, the critical question is which state should have jurisdiction. The travel costs for the parties could be a critical factor.
In custody cases jurisdiction depends mostly upon the following:
- Do any court orders already exist?
- Where does the child presently live?
- Where has the child lived before this time?
If no court has ever entered an order to determine custody or visitation, then the general rule is that a court in the state where the child (and one parent or caregiver) has lived for the last six months is the state court that should resolve the case. If the child is less than six months old, then the state where the child was born and has lived since birth has jurisdiction. This is called the child's home state.
3. What state should have jurisdiction over custody and parenting issues if the child has no home state?
If the child has not lived in one state since birth or for the last six months, then he has no home state. When there is no home state, then the courts consider which state is most able to resolve the case. The courts analyze the significant connections between the child and the state. For example, the state that is home to the child's relatives, teachers, or doctors, who may be potential witnesses if a trial is necessary, has significant connections.
When there is no home state, a state's court can choose to assume jurisdiction if:
- The child has previously lived in or currently lives in the state;
- At least one parent is currently living in the state; and
- The state has significant connections to the child.
4. Are there any exceptions to the above rules to determine jurisdiction?
A. Fleeing. There has always been strong concern about a parent taking a child from her home to another state without ever obtaining the consent of the non-custodial parent, or obtaining a court order. The laws on jurisdiction are called the Uniform Child Custody and Enforcement Act and the Parental Kidnapping Prevention Act. This law requires family courts to reject and/or decline jurisdiction over cases where a parent brings a child to a new state and she does not obtain the consent of the non-custodial parent or a court order to grant the removal.
Nonetheless, the family courts are permitted to accept jurisdiction if a parent flees from the home state to a new state to avoid physical abuse. However, the fleeing parent must notify either the local police or the child protection agency (in New Jersey, that is the Division of Youth and Family Services, DYFS) of the concern and the intent to flee.
B. Inconvenience. A parent can also request that the court of another state to decline jurisdiction bec"se of significant inconvenience. When deciding this the court must consider the following factors such as:
- The distance between the states;
- The relative financial circumstances of parties;
- Any domestic violence history between the parties;
- How long the child has resided outside the state; and
- The nature and location of evidence needed.
Once a state court has properly asserted jurisdiction of a case and enters a custody, visitation, or parenting-time order, then the court of that state may retain jurisdiction until both parents and the child move out of state. The perplexing question is what happens when one parent moves with a child out of the state that first assumed jurisdiction. The courts in other states are not permitted to change the custody/visitation order as long as the first state's court maintains jurisdiction.
When a child has lived in a new state for several years, either parent can request that the court of the state that entered the first custody/visitation order should decline jurisdiction in favor of the new state. The courts will analyze such factors as how long the child has lived in the new state, and which state has most of the evidence or witnesses that would be needed for a hearing.
6. What are some tips on how to make a long-distance parenting plan work?
When parents live in different states, especially in far away states, then it is very important that both parents try to be reasonable with each other. The custodial parent should encourage the children to have liberal communications with the non-custodial parent by telephone, e-mail, SKYPE, and instant messaging. Finally, the parties must recognize that hiring lawyers is expensive. There are much more important bills to pay than to blow it on paying for lawyers to fight over visitation issues. I am a lawyer but I would much rather spend my money on vacations, my mortgage payments, food, and saving it for the future. You could really blow all of your money by engaging in never ending visitation disputes. If at all possible you should try to "bury the hatchet" with your ex-spouse and cooperate with him or her.
Information provided by:
Theodore Sliwinski, Esq. located at
http://www.divorcecenterofnj.com/
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