Monthly Archives: October 2013

Change Beneficiary Designations after Divorce

After a divorce, formerly married people must revisit their estate planning, including beneficiary designations, wills and trusts.  In particular, changes must be made to retirement plans in accordance with the rules set forth by respective employers because children and/or new … Continue reading

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Father’s Rights, Father’s Love

When a marriage ends in a divorce court (as opposed to when it ends by negotiation of the spouses), both sides dig in, and the exchange soon resembles trench warfare. The rights of a father must somehow be balanced against … Continue reading

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Determining Alimony

Unlike child support, in the jurisdictions, judges enjoy latitude in determining and modifying alimony. In some states courts consider fault or the grounds for divorce in determining alimony, but most states do not. In determining the amount and duration of … Continue reading

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Visitation and Child Support Are Separate Obligations

Angry former spouses sometimes imagine they can continue the battle by using child support or visitation as weapons against the former spouse. Child support and visitation are independent obligations. The noncustodial father (as is often the case) cannot stop paying … Continue reading

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Broken Circle: Grown Children of Divorce and Separation Speak Out!

A new book has come to my attention. Broken Circle: Children of Divorce and Separation comes from The Broken Circle project which gives voice to young adults talking about how their parents’ divorce or separation impacted their lives – then … Continue reading

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Six Stages of Divorce Make Recovery Tough

Divorce recovery seems long climb up a steep hill because divorce itself dislocates so many fundaments of life. Anthropologist Paul Bohannan describes the divorce as “an intense journey that includes six different experiences with various different phases.”  They are: the … Continue reading

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Alimony and Taxes and Recapture

There are many tax aspects that come into play when alimony is involved in a divorce. Alimony can create problems under what are called IRS recapture rules, so a divorcing couple must remember alimony recapture. Recapture applies to alimony payments … Continue reading

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Increasing or Decreasing Spousal Support after a Divorce

Courts increase or decrease alimony/spousal support for a number of reasons. Alimony/spousal support may increase automatically when the original support order provides a cost of living adjustment (COLA). Sometimes spouses negotiate support arrangements that provide that the payor’s income increases, … Continue reading

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Regain Self-Worth After Divorce

Surviving a divorce often means recovering from a one-two punch that literally knocks the wind out a person’s self confidence. The two of the greatest contributors to low self-worth are 1) rejection and 2) real or imagined feelings of failure. … Continue reading

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“Benign Indifference” Enhances Divorce Recovery

Naturally, the legal dismemberment of a marriage – the separation, settlement negotiations, filing and divorce decree – do not normally follow the same trajectory of the emotional “tearing asunder.”  This is why divorce is normally a painful process from start … Continue reading

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