After a divorce, the greatest pitfalls for remade single people is premature remarriage. After divorce, newly remade single people soon remember the nice things about being married, and soon hope springs eternal. Most divorced people go for another spin of the roulette wheel of romance. The reality, however, is second (and subsequent) marriages bring with them the baggage of the first (or previous) marriages.
Before remarrying, a divorced person should soul search about why the first (or previous) marriage failed and should not turn a cold eye on the part he or she played in its failure. “Going into a second marriage without realizing why the first failed is like NASA building a new rocket before finding out why the last one exploded,” one observer said.
Instead of honest soul searching, many divorced people become convinced that somewhere out there is a Mr. Right or Mrs. Wonderful. In short, the right partner. Alas, there is no perfect partner — only flawed mortals (many of them battle-damaged veterans of failed marriages). In this routine, the former spouse (now the villain) becomes the basis of comparison to the new love, and the hopeful spouse focuses on what the villain did wrong, while overlooking his or her own negative contributions to the failed marriage.
Sadly, second (or subsequent) marriages are more likely to crash than first marriages.