When a marriage ends in a divorce court (as opposed to when it ends by negotiation of the spouses), both sides dig in, and the exchange soon resembles trench warfare. The rights of a father must somehow be balanced against the welfare of his child.
No rights are absolute. And when the rights of the father come in conflict with the best interest of the child – as can happen when, for example, a custodial mother seeks to relocate to make a fresh start that benefits both her and the child – the father may filled with understandable anger. But to what and?
Whenever anger overtakes a father who is animated by a consideration of his rights, he should remember what Natalie Gregg, a divorce lawyer and mother, says. “You can love your kids or hate your ex-spouse; but you cannot do both at the same time.”