Write a paragraph recalling the events, things you noticed and the way you
felt when the two of you first met. Leave it on his/her mirror, car seat or
Drive to a quiet place together, pull out 3 or 4 sealed envelopes, have
him/her open the envelope of his/her choice and read the agenda for the
evening, i.e. dinner and a movie, your favorite juice bar and a comedy club,
or Chinese take-out at the park then listening to music at a coffee house,
Write 31 things you admire about him/her put them in a decorative container
and have them read one out loud every morning for a month.
If you don't have a "your song" choose one, if you do, choose a special one
for "Valentines Day 1998" or an "our make-up" song, create an occasion for a
special song. Present him/her with the CD or tape.
Write a note stating three ways the world is a better place because he/she
is in it. Give the note with a single stem flower and say, "you are one of a
Using his/her first name create an acronym with words that describe him/her
i.e.; Lisa and Mark = Loving , Marvelous , Inspiring, Adventurous, Sexy, Rowdy, Adorable, Kind
Say "Thank you", express gratitude and appreciation often, be sure to give
compliments at least five times as often as criticisms.
Create a romantic treasure hunt with loving notes or gifts at each stop and
detailed instructions to the next location. Have the final destination be a
quiet restaurant, candle-lit bubble bath, or a massage in bed with warmed oil.
Remember that intimacy may mean different things to men and women. Read
John Gray's Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus out loud to each other.
Respectfully talk about what makes each of you feel close to the other.
Remember, feeling safe and unconditionally accepted lead both men and women to
feeling loved and special.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Gently and directly reveal how you feel
and what you want. Comment out loud on the things he/she does that lead you to
feel special and important to him/her. Give yourself the right to own your
feelings and dreams without justification or providing "evidence." If you are
comfortable with how you feel and what you want others will also be more
comfortable with you.
In a summary dissolution, a hearing with the judge is typically not needed. A marriage of five years or less may be ended by summary dissolution, which is a simplified procedure to terminate a marriage in the state of California. With a summary dissolution, a joint petition is filed when 1) either spouse meets the standard residency requirement, 2) the marriage is irretrievably broken down due to irreconcilable differences, 3) the marriage is childless, 4) the wife is not pregnant, 5) neither spouse owns real estate, 6) there are no unpaid debts greater than $4,000, 7) the total value of community property is less than $25,000, 8) neither spouse has separate property (excluding cars and loans) of greater than $25,000, 9) the spouses have reached an agreement regarding the division and distributions of assets and liabilities, 10) both waive their rights to maintenance and appeal; 11) both have read a brochure about summary dissolution and 12) both desire to end the marriage.
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