Preschoolers do not understand the dimensions and ramifications of divorce, and they do not want to see their parents separate. No matter how extreme the tension is in the home, the child often feels responsible for the separation. At this age, parents must handle the divorce in an open and frank manner. If the child sees that the parent adjust to the divorce, then the children will most likely adjust to it positively. It’s important that the parent reassure with physical and verbal affection. Children may feel very lonely and need someone to talk to.

A child of this age is old enough to have uncertain feelings about the future and a sense of generalized responsibility. He or she may keep anger trapped inside and be subject to bad dreams and unpleasant thoughts or ideas. A child may worry about his safety.

Parents should set up a specific time each day to be with the children for activities like reading together. A parent can do good by encouraging the child to talk openly. Even if the child balks, the parent should ensure visitation with estranged spouse and encourage visitation if it is needed.