If you've married for love and the love has run out, or if you've married for money and the money has run out, chances are, you and your husband or wife are not the happily married couple everyone thinks. With the holidays upon us, it can be especially difficult to keep smiling and pretending.

There are all sorts of marital stresses during the holidays. First, consider the now very common "blended families:' Children and ex-spouses from another lifetime suddenly appear at your dining table. Time-sharing squabbles, airline delays and disputed schedules are hard enough, but during the holidays they all seem to magnify.

Second, consider the family budget. With the current state of the economy, holiday spending is a hot topic of dispute. Even something so simple as when and where to shop can cause major wars in a household already on edge.

Third, no rest for the weary takes the place of sexual intimacy in front of the fireplace. Forgive me for being a grinch, but let's get real here. You do have a house full of people, right?

Lastly, closing out the year and having high hopes for the new year causes one to reflect. Like those New Year's resolutions, if divorce is one of your aspirations, I am here to help get you through it.