Most husbands and wives often have differing opinions when it comes to running the family finances or play time in the bedroom.

Most of the time, happily married couples can resolve their issues amicably and carryon. But when it gets to extreme disputes - meaning the fighting gets louder, more frequent, or even violent - know that your marriage is in serious trouble. No one should live in harm's way or in a constant state of frustration.

Although I am a lawyer, not a therapist,l have seen enough to know that money and sex are the two most common reasons for divorce. Disagreements can manifest in extreme shopping, cutting off financial support, uncustomary sexual demands, withholding of sex as punishment, extra-marital affairs, and other out of the ordinary behavior.

The best advice is to seek professional marriage counseling which, hopefully, will help get years of resentment off your chest, and end the festering of subliminal animosity and score-keeping. If professional counseling doesn't work, you only have two options - you can either grin and bear it, or bail!

If you decide to grin and bear it, you are living in a sham marriage, and worse, you are being abused. If you decide to bail, you will be facing divorce court, but eventually a new lease on life.