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Custody and Visitation - What do Those Words Actually Mean, in Layman’s Terms?
As a divorce mediator in Chicago, Illinois, I spend a lot of my time educating my clients as to what Custody and Visitation mean. In the past, custody always went to the mom and dad got visits every other weekend. Views have changed over the years. Studies are showing that children benefit more when both parents are active in their lives. Dads are taking proactive roles in their children's lives and this is changing the dynamics of custody and visitation.
Custody to some people is awarded to the parent who cares more about the children and visiting goes to the parent who cares less. Nothing is further from the truth. All that matters is what is best for the children. These two words Custody and Visitation are highly emotional and explosive leading to many court battles and the wasting of thousands of dollars.
Custody and Visitation are legal terms. When discussing parenting, first decide what is best for your kids, then who will have them at certain times and why, and lastly what each parents time will be called.
However Custody and Visitation must be classified when there are parenting concerns with one of the parents (i.e.: Domestic Violence, Drug and Alcohol use, ever changing work schedules, parent moving out of state) We are here to do what is best for your children, taking every issue into account when putting together custody and visitation plans.
Another phase that comes up when deciding Custody and Visitation is "primary residence." This is another one of those legal terms that are highly explosive and emotional, especially when custody is shared and time with the kids is right around 50/50. It's issues like these that can turn a peaceful divorce into a fully blown litigated one. I was shocked at the lengthy discussions my couples and I would have around this one issue. In the end some couples would flip a coin, others would do some bartering, and others would "share" primary residence, which in no way benefits their children. However, the majority of my couples end up agreeing on one primary parent when we sit down and discuss what it really means. Here are some reasons why deciding on one primary parent is in your children's best interest:
I hope you have gotten from this article the importance of focusing on what is best for your children and letting go of what the wording in a divorce agreement says. Good Luck.
In Illinois, alimony is awarded without regard to marital misconduct. According to Illinois divorce law, the judge orders support from one spouse to the other if the parties cannot agree. The court awards alimony in a lump sum or for a fixed or indefinite period of time. The alimony may be paid from the income or property of the other spouse after considering all relevant factors, including the income and assets of each spouse, the needs of each party, the earning capacity of each party, any impairment of the earning capacity of the party seeking alimony caused by marital sacrifices, the time necessary for the receiving party to seek employment, the standard of living established while married, the length of the marriage, the age and health of both parties, and the contributions and services by the party seeking maintenance to the education or career potential of the other spouse.
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Author: Mary L. Boland, Attorney at Law
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