Do not date. You are married. Your spouse can use it against you. If you are divorced, moving in with your lover could cause problems with custody, visitation, or alimony. If you do date, be prepared to face the problems that may arise. Tell me about it, because if I am surprised by it in court, it will hurt your case. If you date, do not throw it in your spouse's face. This will make bad feelings worse and is proof against you at trial (confession). Avoid dating at social events where your spouse will be. Remember, it will be hard to explain why you "did not pay" or "cannot afford" it if you took your date on an expensive trip or to a swanky event.

Do not lie about dating. Although judges do not like people "fooling around," they are not usually too angry when they hear about it. Judges are much more likely to get mad if you lie to them. Lying under oath can result in your going to jail for perjury.