Finding and selecting a mediator can be easier if you follow some simple steps. In the best of circumstances, divorce is an uncomfortable process. Take the time to assure you have a mediator whom you like, respect and believe to be qualified to help both of you negotiate that equitable settlement.

Start by generating a list of four or five mediators in your area. Comparison shopping is just as important here as anywhere else. By talking to a number of mediators you will not only become clear on which one feels right for you, but you will also familiarize yourself with the process, the topics you'll need to discuss, the costs associated with mediated divorces and the issues involved in selecting a mediator.

Names of mediators are available through several channels including the Yellow Pages, state mediation associations, the Academy of Family Mediators in Lexington, Massachusetts (the national family mediation association), and local attorneys, therapists and clergy. In compiling your list don't rule out mediators a little distance away from your home. The right mediator may be worth a drive.

Now call each of the mediators and check him or her out. Factors to consider in choosing your mediator are: