North Carolina Info

North Carolina Divorce Start Your Divorce Find Professionals North Carolina Articles Divorce Facts Divorce Grounds Residency Divorce Laws Mediation/Counseling Divorce Process Legal Separation Annulments Property Division Alimony Child Custody Child Support Divorce Forms Process Service Grandparent Rights Forum North Carolina Products Divorce by County

STATE Articles

Agreements Attorney Relationship Custody & Visitation Child Support Counseling Divorce/General Domestic Abuse Mediation Property Division Spousal Support SEE ALL

Info Categories

Contemplating Divorce Children & Divorce Divorce, Dollars & Debt Divorce Laws Divorce Process Divorce Negotiation SEE ALL

More Information

Articles Checklists Research Center Cases of Interest Dictionary Encyclopedia Encyclopedia (pop-up) Blogs

For Professionals

Advertise With Us Free Network Page Join Our Network Submit Articles Case Management Sign In

Network Sites

North Carolina Divorce Support North Carolina Divorce Online

Securing Your Wellness During Separation and Divorce

With every new beginning, there is change. Some people cope with change more easily than others. Some consider it a challenge and others... a hurdle. In more extreme cases, it can break down an individual physically, emotionally and spiritually. That's especially true for many of my clients. As a family law attorney, I typically deal with people who are considering separation and possibly divorce. But it is possible to survive this stressful time without falling apart. Here's what I recommend:

Step One: Arm Yourself

By the time you have sought counsel, you have thought long and hard about separation and divorce. Whether or not it was your idea, you have contemplated all the different scenarios of your life after separation. You have considered the positive and negative affects this change will have on you and, if you are a parent, on your children. When clients come to my office, I expect them to be fearful of the experience but I encourage them to open their minds. The first step in getting control of your wellness is to become educated. Arm yourself with the law. Divorce is not always the answer. I know it sounds cliché, but thinking with your head and not your heart when it comes to a decision that affects your future -- your property, financial support and your ability to care for your children -- is a must.

Step Two: Reach Out

People who are going through separation and divorce often are embarrassed and ashamed of the fact that their marriage failed. "What will my neighbors think of me?" "What will my peers and colleagues think of me?" Do not be ashamed. Remember, you're not alone. Statistically, at least one out of every two marriages ends in divorce. All reasons for divorce are different. Some have grown apart. Some have strayed. Some have simply fallen out of love. Regardless of the reason, it is imperative that you reach out to those who support you. If you are not at a point where you are willing to open up and reach out to family and friends, seek the advice of a counselor or someone who can be objective and honest with you after learning of your circumstances. Having a support system in place to help you through this change will keep your physical, emotional and spiritual balance in check.

Step Three: Accept the Challenge

When I was growing up, anytime I was confronted with a life-changing event, my mother told me THAT DAY was the first day of the rest of my life... a new beginning. Each time I listened and I felt empowered to embrace the change and prepare myself for the challenge ahead. While I learned to live by my mother's mantra of "today is the first day of the rest of your life," others have learned to live by what is commonly referred to as the Serenity Prayer. It teaches us to accept the things we cannot change, have the courage to change the things we can and have the wisdom to distinguish between the two. Nowhere is this more necessary than in the separation and divorce process. I cannot sugarcoat the harsh realities that people endure in the transition. The change will not be easy. But by accepting the challenge, you have embraced change and have taken the first steps in securing your wellness for the future. Now get ready for a new beginning. Today is the first day of the rest of your life.

Was this helpful? Like our site & let us know.

Related Articles

Start North Carolina Divorce Start Your North Carolina Online Divorce Today
Easy, Fast and Affordable with a 100% Guarantee.
North Carolina Divorce Find North Carolina Divorce Professionals in Your Area:
Join the Network
North Carolina Divorce Products, Services and Solutions North Carolina Divorce Products, Services and Solutions
North Carolina Divorce Resources to Help You Through the Process.
Online Parenting Class North Carolina Mandatory Online Parenting Class
Easy and convenient - complete at your own pace online.
Divorce and Custody Books Discount Divorce Bookstore
Over 100 Titles of the Best Books on Divorce & Custody.
Divorce Downloads Divorce Download Center
Instantly Download, Books, Manuals, & Forms.
Divorce Worksheet Free North Carolina Divorce Worksheet & Separation Agreement
Your Guide to Get Organized and Put Everything in Writing.
No-fault grounds for divorce in North Carolina are living separate and apart for one year or living separate and apart for three consecutive years, without cohabitation, by reason of the incurable insanity of one of them.
Divorce Lawyers & Mediators

Find Professionals

Easily Connect With a Lawyer or Mediator
Have Divorce Professionals from Your Area Contact You!
Enter Your Zip Code:


Start Your Divorce File for a North Carolina Divorce


Settle Your Divorce Negotiate Your North Carolina Divorce


Support Forum North Carolina Support Forum


North Carolina Sponsor

The Rosen Law Firm

Children In Between - Online Parenting Class

FEATURED TOOL - 3StepAgreementTM (an affordable solution for preparing your own Separation Agreement)

Guarantee Official PayPal Seal Facebook Twitter Versign Secure Site
Limited Offer Women's Rights Manual For Divorce
Cover Price: $55.95
Your Price: $29.95
You Save: $26.00

"The Absolute Best Investment in Your Divorce"

Men's Rights Manual For Divorce
Cover Price: $55.95
Your Price: $29.95
You Save: $26.00

"Uncover Your Options and Unleash Solutions"