Deciding and Establishing the Child Custody Arrangements
You and the other parent need to agree on a custody arrangement for your child. Once you achieve this task, you have taken a great step to lessen the emotional trauma your child will experience. Your child deserves to be made aware of your custody decision as soon as possible. This should be done with both parents present if possible, so when questions are asked, each parent can participate in the answers and discussion, reinforcing that the custody arrangement was a mutually agreed upon decision. One of the most difficult experiences for a child is not to know where he or she is going to live and until this information is released, he or she will feel empty and potentially unwanted. Most of the questions your child will initially have can not be answered until the custody arrangement has been decided. Questions like the following; Who will take care of me? Where will I play? Will I live in the same place? Who will make me dinner? Will I every be left alone? etc.
Strategies and Tactics for Announcing the Custody Arrangements:
If you have arrived at your custody arrangement by allowing your child to choose between you or the other parent, you may want to reconsider. Most of the time, a child does not realize what is best for him or her and making him or her choose between the parents can create sever guilt. A child should never be put in a position to choose one parent over the other.
If you have already told your child about the custody arrangement and wish you had done it differently, do not worry because what is done is done and you should not dwell on the past. In the future try to focus on using the strategies and tactics mentioned above during other divorce and/or separation related discussions.
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"A Plain English Guide to Protecting Your Children"
Author: Mary L. Boland, Attorney at Law
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