Adjusting to the thought of not being married occurs in stages and the progress of adjustment varies depending on the situation, the family structure that existed, and your current lifestyle. As you adjust to the divorce and/or separation your child is also adjusting, but it is important to realize that you do not always adjust at the same rate or in the same fashion. You must always remember your child will have different adjustments to make that are different from yours, and you should focus your attention on how he or she is reacting to these adjustments.

It is suggested that you stay busy and do not think about the other parent or the divorce and/or separation. We realize that this can be all but impossible, but you must do your best to relieve yourself from the emotional ties. This approach is a viable choice, but overkill, can only prolong the adjustment period. Balance is very important and in order to become well adjusted, you must work hard at it. The adjustment or healing process takes time and effort, but the rewards are priceless.

Remember to be overly conscious of how you act in front of your child. It is likely that your child will share your feelings, so if you adjust quickly with a positive attitude, he or she will more than likely follow in your footprints.