Trying to get your child to be on your side is a common trap that parents tend to fall into. Parents see it as though they are showing more love or attention by doing so, but rather it is often a selfish tactic to gain revenge against the other parent.

We realize that all situations are unique and certainly some parents are capable of out doing themselves when it comes to being arrogant, inconsiderate, disparaging, neglectful, etc., but it is recommended, no matter how bad the situation may be, that every parent refrain from using a child as an ally or teammate against the other parent. If your child is of an age to be on your side, then he or she is old enough to make his or her own decisions. Do not influence or force your child to take your side.