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Contemplating Divorce? 10 Things you Should Know
1. Safety First
Every divorce client should evaluate the risk to him or her of family violence during the initial separation and ensuing divorce. While you may believe the risk of your spouse becoming violent is slight, remember that the end of a marriage can provoke very strong emotions.
Have a safety plan for you and your children. Do you have a family member or a close friend who can provide you with a safe place to stay until matters are resolved?
If there has been a history of family violence in your marriage, act with extreme caution and consider obtaining a family violence protective order. If family violence has occurred in the past and there is a clear and present danger that it will occur in the future, a temporary, emergency protective order may be issued by the court.
Avoid any and all physical altercations with your spouse during the initial separation. While this may seem common-sense, a finding of family violence by a divorce court may result with you having reduced time with your children, or even result in you having to visit with your children under third-party supervision.
2. Know Before you Go
What do you know about your family's financial situation? You should begin making an "inventory" of both your assets and liabilities. Simply put, "what do you have, and who do you owe?"
Next, Make copies of your important financial documents such as: bank statements, tax returns, investment account statements, retirement plan statements, house closing documents, property tax statements, automobile loans and insurance statements, credit card statements, and any other statement you can think of that impact your financial status. Store these documents in a safe place outside your home.
Similarly, if your spouse has made expenditures that have harmed your marital estate, such as expenditures on paramours, gambling, drug usage, or excessive alcohol consumption, you should attempt to identify and copy any receipts, cancelled checks, or credit card statements that identify the expenditure.
Your lawyer will need to have these documents, and to the extent you can obtain and organize them, you will be saving yourself time and money, and potentially protecting your marital estate from being squandered by your spouse.
3. The Great Divide
In a divorce, only the community property of the parties is subject to division by the court.
"Community Property" is that property, other than separate property, acquired by either spouse during marriage.
"Separate Property" consists of: property owned by a spouse prior to marriage; property acquired by a spouse during marriage by gift, devise, or descent; and the recovery for personal injuries sustained by a spouse during marriage, except for a recovery for loss of earning capacity during the marriage.
While these rules for characterizing property as either community or separate property seem fairly simple, there are many nuances and special rules for different types of property. For instance, a common question arises when separate property increases in value during the marriage. You will need to depend on the experience and skill of your lawyer in advising you regarding the characterization of the property involved in your divorce.
4. Do a Budget
A marital separation results in the creation of two households where there had previously been only one. For most families, this results in a significant financial burden. You should know how much money you need each month to keep a roof over your head, the minimum balances on your bills paid, and you and your children fed.
What is your income? What is your spouses income? Has your spouse agreed to pay some of your monthly expenses and can you depend on him or her to do so? Who will be harmed the most if your financial obligations become delinquent? These are all questions you should consider.
When you meet with your lawyer, you should be prepared to discuss your financial needs. Your lawyer can help you to better evaluate your financial situation and tell you whether you have a realistic chance of obtaining temporary support from your spouse in court.
This is a good time to remind you to inform you accountant and your financial advisor about your pending divorce. These are the professionals who can best advise you regarding which financial accounts you should seek to retain given your age, earnings, and projected financial needs.
5. A Matter of Time
A divorce is a process, not a single event. At a minimum, a divorce cannot be finalized for 60 days after the date the case is filed in court, and as a practical matter, most cases are not finalized on the 61st day.
The finalization of your case can be delayed by things such as the discovery process and the time required for each side to exchange information regarding marital assets and debts.
Additionally, scheduling issues between attorneys, clients, mediators and the courts can also delay finalization.
If there are issues in your case regarding your children, and a social study or other custody evaluation is ordered, your case may be delayed by as much as six months.
If your case cannot be resolved by agreement and requires a trial, a trial setting could take anywhere between two months and six months depending your particular court's docket.
6. Temporary Orders, Lasting Consequences
All divorces begin with the filing of a "Petition for Divorce" in the court having divorce jurisdiction in the county where the parties reside. In the majority of cases, the Petition will also request that the Court enter a temporary restraining order, ex parte, then a temporary injunction and other temporary orders after a hearing.
Ex Parte means that the temporary restraining order is entered by the court without notice to the other spouse. The purpose of the temporary restraining order ("TRO") is to immediately prohibit the other spouse from the commission of certain acts which could result in the dissipation of the community estate, harm or annoyance to the other spouse, or interference with possession of a child. A TRO remains in effect for 14 days after the date of issuance.
Absent a specific finding of family violence within the preceding 30 days of filing for divorce, a court cannot exclude a spouse from the family home.
A temporary orders hearing will be scheduled by the court sometime near the expiration of the TRO. The opposing spouse must be personally served with notice of the temporary orders hearing. The notice will specify when and where the spouse is to appear for the hearing.
At the temporary orders hearing, the court may enter a temporary injunction for the protection of the parties and preservation of the marital estate. A court may order:
Because may divorce cases can continue on for six months to even a year, it is critically important that you and your attorney be prepared to effectively present your case at the temporary orders hearing. Remember, too, that temporary orders establish a precedent that will affect future settlement negotiations. In addition, the trial judge may rely on the temporary orders as a guide at the at the final hearing.
7. In the Fishbowl
While your divorce is pending, you are in "the fishbowl". In other words, you need to remember that your activities, your spending, your behavior towards your spouse and your children are under close scrutiny by your spouse, opposing counsel and, in some instances, even the court. Be mindful of the impression you make on the people involved in your divorce, from the judge to his bailiff, from custody evaluators to the teacher's aide at school.
Much of family law is based upon people's subjective evaluations of other people, and as they say, "you never get a second chance to make a first impression." Be your best even when things are at their worst.
8. What you should expect from your lawyer
A divorce is one of life's "defining moments." The outcome of your divorce could have a lasting effect on you and your children for years to come. You should put some thought into the selection of your lawyer. Obtain references from friends, and others who have been satisfied with their family law attorney.
Interview at least two attorneys. You should evaluate whether:
Once you have retained your attorney you should expect that he or she will become familiar with your particular circumstances and be able to plan a "road map" of your case with you. Additionally, and most importantly, you should expect your attorney to give you sound advice as to whether your expectations are realistic and as to the best means of achieving your goals.
9. How will it End?
Most divorces do not end with the "Perry Mason moment" with the witness confessing to a multitude of sins after a withering cross-examination by counsel. The vast majority of divorces are concluded by agreement of the parties.
Most often an agreement is reached after both attorneys have reviewed the parties' inventories and other discovery materials and have had the opportunity to confer with their client and opposing counsel regarding a proposed division of the marital estate.
While there are many technical rules of property division the one, overarching principle is that the marital estate should be divided in a manner that is "just and right, having due regard for the rights of each party and any children of the marriage. A "fair" division of the marital estate can mean different things to different people. Accordingly, there is considerable room in the settlement process for negotiation and compromise.
If the parties have been unable to agree upon a division of the marital estate in their informal negotiations, the parties may agree to attend mediation, or in some cases, the court will order mediation. A mediation is a settlement process conducted by a mediator. The mediator is a neutral person, trained in mediation, whose job it is to facilitate a structured settlement dialogue between the parties.
While a mediator will always try to "cajole" the parties into reaching an agreement, the mediator cannot force the parties to do anything they don't want to do. The mediation is confidential to encourage the parties to negotiate in good faith and without the concern that they will be later held to a certain offer of settlement should the process fail.
Mediation is often an exercise in "shuttle diplomacy" where the mediator "caucuses" with each spouse and their attorney privately and assists them in generating settlement proposals and responding constructively to the settlement proposals of their spouse. Through this process of give and take, the mediator draws the parties towards an agreement.
If the parties come to an agreement, the mediator prepares a mediated settlement agreement to be signed by all parties. The agreement is binding and irrevocable. A final decree of divorce will then be prepared based upon the mediated settlement agreement.
While mediation is the dominate means of alternative dispute resolution in family law, arbitration is used in some instances. The court will only order arbitration if the parties agree in writing to arbitrate. The award of an arbitrator may be binding or nonbinding.
If you are in the minority and your case does not settle, it may be necessary for you to proceed to trial. Most divorces are tried to a judge rather than a jury. This is because juries are limited by law in their power to make awards of specific property; such awards are left to the providence of the judge, and for most people a jury trial is very costly.
At trial, the Judge will expect a very organized and "to the point" presentation of your case. For this, you and your lawyer will need to prepare. Your lawyer should have the trial expertise to direct your preparation. Most Judges will hear the evidence and take the case "under advisement" for a day of two to review the evidence and making a ruling.
While a court's ruling in a divorce case is appealable, such appeals are very rare and usually not successful unless it can be shown that the Judge "has abused his discretion" in dividing the marital estate.
10. It's a Wrap
Once your divorce is concluded, your lawyer should provide you with a certified copy of your divorce decree. The decree will be signed by a judge and have a special seal on one of the back pages put there by the court clerk to show that the copy of the original divorce decree has been "certified" as accurate.
For many people, the decree is only the beginning of the end. Your lawyer should advise you about the need for any other closing or transfer documents necessary in your case.
For instance, if you are remaining in the family home, you will want to obtain a Special Warranty Deed from your ex-spouse. Additionally, you may be required to execute a Deed of Trust to Secure Assumption. Through these documents, your ex-spouse will be conveying his or her interest in the home to you while retaining a "secured interest" in the home should you fail in your obligation to make the mortgage payments.
If you have been awarded an interest in your ex-spouse's qualified retirement plan, you will need to present to the employer a Qualified Domestic Relations Order to secure your share of the retirement plan. Your attorney should either prepare this document for you or direct you to an attorney specializing in the preparation of these orders.
Advise your investment advisor of your pending divorce and request that he or she assist you in meeting the requirements of your investment fund managers for dividing your investment accounts.
Make sure that your health insurance needs are met. If you have been covered by your spouse's plan, you need to consider your alternatives prior to your being dropped from the insurance after the divorce. While C.O.B.R.A. may be available to you, in many instances the continuation of such coverage is prohibitively expensive.
Have your attorney obtain a power of attorney authorizing you to sell any automobiles awarded to you in the decree but owned in the name of both you and your spouse.
While the divorce court retains jurisdiction to clarify or enforce the terms of your divorce decree, it is far better and less expensive to make sure that all of the closing documents are executed either at the same time the decree is entered or as close thereafter as possible.
Before the divorce is final, the court may issue temporary orders to deal with immediate problems, such as conservatorship, possession, child support, and spousal support/alimony. Temporary orders can say who will live in the home, who will be able to write checks on the bank accounts, and who will have control of the children up until the divorce is final and permanent orders are put in place. In most cases, depending on the court, the spouses will be ordered to mediation prior to any hearing on temporary orders. Mandatory mediation helps lessen the case load at the court and helps the parties resolve issues without a court ruling.
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