
Children & Divorce: The Different Age Stages: 3/5 years (Pre-schoolers):
Cognitive Development
Children at this age are beginning to know and explore a great deal of their environment. They are learning an enormous amount of new words and their level of thinking is becoming more complex. They believe that they are in total control of their environment, which can pose a problem for parents who want a divorce. The child may feel as though they are responsible for the divorce and if this is the case, they feel no power in controlling the outcome.
How To Handle It
Pre-schoolers don't understand the whole concept of divorce, nor do they want to see their parents separate. No matter how extreme the tension is in the home, the child will ultimately feel responsible for the separation. Remember, it is important for the parents to handle the divorce in an open manner. If the child sees that the parent is adjusting to the divorce positively then the children will most likely adjust to it positively. It's important that the parent reassure with physical and verbal affection. Children really need someone to talk to.
Possible Reactions:
Uncertain feelings about the future
Feeling a sense of responsibility
Keeping anger trapped inside
Nightmares may start
Unpleasant thoughts or ideas
Remedy Ideas for Parents:
Read books to your child
Set-up specific time for them each day
Encourage your child to talk
Ensure his or her safety
Ensure visitation with estranged spouse
Encourage visitation if it is needed
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