| almostheaven |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 03/04/08 08:14 AM |
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Re: The problem here tho Becka...
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Well, we went through the same thing. And it's extremely frustrating. During our guardianship hearing with my FIL. It was a tactic they used. We had the actual police reports though which verified that my HUSBAND was the one that was abused when FIL punched him. They took pics of his bloody mouth, and yet FIL? Not a scratch. Yet, on his idiotic lawyer's advice, they filed elder abuse. Then? FIL doesn't show up, says his lawyer told him he didn't need to and that my husband was found guilty?!?! What?!?! His lawyer showed up in court and went in and had the charges DISMISSED prior to the hearing. We had to sit in that courtroom 2 hours that morning for that B.S.??? Our lawyer knew that was probably going to be the outcome and so he didn't go to court with us, but stood by on the phone. He said if they called our case, we were to call him and he'd be there in 5. But he was never needed.
The tactic here was...hubby was guardian for his mom. By his dad doing this, he was removed from the house. Whereupon, they immediately stashed MIL in a secret nursing home. We found out later where she was, but not before the damage had been done. Being she was already in a home, the court kept it so. And they appointed the state as her guardian at the final hearing so they could collect as much dollars as possible, since they figured the family couldn't work it out between them. But FIL blatantly went against a court order appointing hubby as guardian. He had put himself, with his grandson, on the nursing home paperwork as her guardians. Being that he was her husband, the home didn't question this. They didn't know a CO existed otherwise.
It is unfortunate that some people will use the law to their advantage like this. In the end, the charges were dismissed, and nothing was done. But again, the damage had been done, and because of FIL's advanced age, nothing would be done to him. But something should have at LEAST been done with his lawyer. But they can pretty much get by with anything unscathed.