| kdpnas94 |
| (recently joined) |
| 03/16/09 12:03 AM |
Re: money hoarding,controling, abusive husband
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Just because a person stays with someone who is abusive doesn't mean they risk their children! Sometimes people who are abused don't see it clearly until the end... sometimes life is more difficult.
Do you leave and have NO WAY to support your children because every effort you've made to get a job or to make money has been thwarted, and all the friends you may have gone to have been slowly pushed away from you... ?
Which is better, poverty or a man who abuses his wife, but not the children? I know I was willing to give up MY life, and my self respect, and my dignity for what I thought was the greater good.
It took me 8 years, and another pregnancy, to see that my children were going to grow up to be just like their father. *That* was my motivation for leaving!
Abusers are well known for manipulating and twisting things so you think it's your fault something happened... As someone who has been abused, I know how muddled it can be. You see a red flag, but it doesn't click because you feel it's your fault, not theirs. Thats what abuse is all about!