| advisor4qb |
| (recently joined) |
| 07/18/09 09:38 PM |
Re: Hi ! new here, need some help 'not going back"
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You are dealing with a narcissist. I read your post, and it sounds remarkably like the relationship I have had with my husband. I left him in January. You should read all you can about narcissism. I have a pretty good blog at narcissismblitz.com that has links to articles I wrote. But you can also look at articles written at this website: http://www.narcissismfree.com/newsletter_weekly.php
The man is totally self-absorbed (at least mine is). I left mine in January, and he still doesn't think he did anything wrong. And his coddling mother is probably reinforcing that for him daily.
It's pretty scary that I have wasted 12 years of my life (on and off) on this man that holds a soft spot in my heart that he has repeatedly used to keep me where he wants me. No more.
I also have an article on expertscolumn.com on narcissism. There are a wide variety of websites on this disorder, which is usually undiagnosed, as the narcissist typically will not go to counseling, because he feels he is perfect!