| alrietto |
| (journeyman) |
| 01/09/10 06:00 PM |
Offer sex in exchange...
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Does she have Narcissistic Personality Disorder, NPD?
I helped her with the entire divorce proceedings. The first time she came over to my house she kissed me with a lot of intensity. That seemed unusual to me but she said she always kisses that way. I did not make much of it at the time. She suggested we go to bed together. That seemed unusual to me but I agreed.
After that I would drive to the house she and her sons lived in every other day. I would buy groceries and other thing she needed. When I would ring the bell she opened the door with a big happy smile, like a dog happy to see his owner. Was she happy to see ME, or was she selling herself to the person she would use and abuse and offer him sex in return?
After her divorce was final, a few days before she would leave house she lived in with her sons, I stayed over for a couple of days. We were getting ready to move her to my house. Then she made a very strange comment:
“You are OK to live with”. I completely misunderstood that comment. I thought she meant I was a nice guy. I thought she was giving me a compliment.
Then I rented a u-haul truck. We packed and moved everything to my house. After she took everything she wanted to take the house looked like pile of rubbles, like an earthquake had stricken, like it had been robbed.
Many strange things happened during the tree years that followed. She was living in her unrealistic grandiose fantasies, she would be euphoric and then dysphoric and sad, she behaved in a childish way but also charming on occasions and on other occasions she displayed a complete lack of self esteem. She would tell her fantastic life stories constantly and she was addicted to admiration, adoration and approval. She trained her youngest son to give her compliments about her looks.
Almost three years later she would beg me to marry her. I would agree, not because I wanted us to be married, but because I agreed that I had to fix her and her son’s legal situation in the US. I agreed because I did not want them to continue being illegal in this country.
I was horrified to realize that all along her plan had been to accuse me of domestic violence and gain her immigration to the US by abusing VAWA (Violence Against Women Act) and the system that was put in place to help real battered women.
As much as she made me feel like I was the best, the ideal man for her, in the end she said I was worthless, the worst man she had ever known and she became extremely sadistic towards me. She said and did everything to hurt me.
Can you imagine the horror? I am being falsely accused and I didn't understand why?
So when she said: “You are OK to live with”. She really meant: I don’t love you but since you have a house and I need a place for my sons and myself, I will move in with you and I will offer you sex in exchange.