| nolonger |
| (enthusiast) |
| 12/02/10 12:10 PM |
Re: Hi...
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Welcome. This may not be the right place for you to find friendship, especially on the abuse forum. You may find good advice, bad advice and totally off the wall comments from those who intend to harm. Just a FYI.
What holds you back from divorce? I was married in 1993, had 4 kids and can say, too, that I should have left the first time we broke up in 1989.
Well 15 years later and it's much harder to leave. What held me back was the kids. I couldn't break their heart and our family.
Until he started being abusive with the kids in the same room. Then I knew it was far worse for me to stay and they witness the abuse of their mother.
It was far more difficult than I thought but looking back, it all made me stronger.
If divorce is what you want, do your homework. Be prepared. Expect the worst and worse than that. Keep safe and have a plan for any scenario. Leaving is the most dangerous time for a woman.
But you will get through it. There is light at the end of the tunnel and new life beyond that.
Make the most of it if you get out. And keep your chin up. Tell yourself how beautiful you are inside and out and forget his lies.