Okay, I have to put my two cents in...I am not divorced yet but in the process of it. I am all for the childsupport. I think every father has a responsibility to their children. And if it means he has to sacrifice well then tough sh**. But, as for alimony I see it differently. I have spent years trying to get my soon to be ex to further her education so she would not be dependent on me. I supported her and assured her we would do whatever we have to so that she could make herself more independent.....she kept making excuses and refused to do it. She makes about $11 an hour now and expects me to pay her a nice hunk of my salary for a very long time...NOT DOING IT. Unlike her, while still being a parent I worked full time and went to school full time so that I could give our family a better life. After I finished I tried to encourage her to do the same. She gets so mad at me when we talk about this subject but I feel she brought this on herself. The only difference is all her kids(I say her kids because the kids are hers from a previous marriage, I married her and helped her raise them for 16 years) are out of the house now but she cant seem to let them grow up. She wants to keep managing pretty much all of there affairs. I did not grow up like that and disagree with what she is doing. So rumrunner I am sorry for the situation you are in and yes you should go back to a lawyer and get the childsupport raised BUT you NEED to get your a** in gear and do whatever it take to make yourself more independent. You can get school loans, take online classes(so you are not away from the children) ect. There is a wealth of information on the internet. But dont ever forget to BE TRUE TO THY OWN SELF! I wish you luck and may you prosper.
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Re: continuing spousal support