My husband and I have the exact same professional degree. He quit his good job 3 years back to start his own business which has gone nowhere while I supported us. No kids, married 15 years. Now he has a part time job and works on his business and wants me to pay him support. There is currently a quite large difference in income though he is qualified to get the exact same type of job I have and in fact did have just such a job 3 years ago. Why, why, why does anyone owe anyone else a living? Why do people feel entitled to mooch off someone else for years and years? Just because they were there before? But they are not there now and that seems important to me! It makes zero sense to me. I guess human beings are often pretty greedy. Some cases I can understand that support is warranted but mostly it seems to be lazy and greedy and unkind. No one is owed a living for free, just get off your buns and take care of yourself. I offered to pay him 6 months so he can make his own choices about what to do with his life. He has already stated that he intends to keep the part time job he has, though. Plus there has been mental abuse (not physical) all these years to where I lost my sense of myself, he is questioning and advising my every move, controlling the money and life in general, and I lived in fear of upsetting him. I am still scared though much much more bold than I used to be. I hate my life right now. I am so so sad, this divorce process is scary and lonely. I just want to be myself again but the world is so black right now :-(
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Spousal Support Sucks