| bkgirl |
| (recently joined) |
| 03/15/07 03:10 PM |
Re: What is best for the children?
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Hi there, I am not in the exact same situation as you are, but pretty close. My husband is an alcoholic, and I recently found out addicted to a drug. He has been verbally abusive. We have been married 8 years, he used to be nice. Most of the really bad stuff started AFTER we had children, he just couldn't deal. We have been in counseling for a year and a half. He has stolen money from me and the family by using equity from the house. We will lose the house.
I have joined Al-Anon which has really helped. I wanted to cheat on him, to get the affection that I needed, but I did not, so I sortof know how you feel. I never got the love and affection from him - or the sex that I wanted and needed. He was always out with his buddies getting drunk, and I was home with the kids.
The best thing for the kids I have decided, is for them not to be in a disfunctional family. Get help yourself. I am trying to read as much as possible about my situation. It sucks. My girls (2 and 4)are so much happier and relaxed now that he is out of the house. I have not filed yet. I am afraid of what he will do I think. But I will file soon.
Good luck to you.