| GrammaLatte |
| (enthusiast) |
| 03/03/08 09:58 AM |
Re: "Forcing" daughter to see mother.
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Yes, you should push her to see her mom. More than that, you should make it mandatory. You have a good kid, there. But she is still a KID. This is her MOM. If, (God forbid) something should happen to her mom and your daughter had been avoiding her, she would never forgive herself.
I went through this with one of my kids. I had the X who was worse than horrible. I truly hated him, couldn't stand to listen to anything about him. But when my son came to me complaining about his father for the very things I hated about my X and stating he was not going to see him anymore, I took the attitude I recommended to you above. He went, reluctantly and with some anger toward me, but he went...
It's now well over 25 years later. My son still doesn't much LIKE his father, but has maintained a relationship with him. And he's glad he did. And his stated respect for me kind of blows him away because he knew how I felt about his Dad, yet I still stood my ground in terms of what was best for him.
It was a win win.