| 092895 |
| (enthusiast) |
| 04/03/08 01:16 PM |
Re: CHILDREN DO FORM THEIR OWN OPINIONS!
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I have told my son that I don't understand why his Dad does what he does, and I want even try to explain it. Bottom line is I can't make up for what he's Dad does or doesn't do.
I can tell him that his Dad loves him, but I just don't understand why he does what he does. That's the truth. They do form their own opinions.
Have I been upset with his Dad? Yes, many times, but I have explained to my son that when his Dad's does things that hurt him it hurts me, because I love him. I try really hard to stay out of it now, it serves no purpose. My son has a stable home life and I just think at this point and time he doesn't want to rock the boat. I really think he want's to see his Dad, but doesn't want to get caught up in his drama and problems. This is a child and he should be able to enjoy that without all of his Dad's baggage.
I have come to the conclusion that the problems between he and his Dad are between he and his Dad. I can't fix it!! They will have to come to their own resolve.
As Mother's it is just in us to try to fix things for our children, but at some point our children do learn that we can't fix everything.
My son loves his Dad and I have always told him that he should love us both equally. His Dad has always made it a competition and made him feel like he wasn't supposed to love me or atleast love him more. I hate to say this and by no means does it make me happy, but it is biting his Dad in the butt. My son is at the age where he understands manipulation and knows what his Dad tries to do.