| BeachBabeRN |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 11/14/09 11:46 AM |
Re: Incarceration = NO CS order, not fair to our kid
|
I don't appreciate you calling me something that needed to be censored. I merely voiced an opinion, which I will stick by.
You've been separated for greater than a year. As you've put it, you couldn't find him to serve him so you stepped up to the plate and did what you had to do. Although I do sympathize, I will stand by my opinion that you haven't had child support for the time that you've been separated and while it absolutely isn't fair, you can't get money from him while he's incarcerated.
When he comes out of jail/prison, he will hopefully have gotten clean and sober.....perhaps hiw viewpoint will have changed and he will voluntarily pay what he should have been paying all along. I saw the judge's ruling as holding it until the outcome of a criminal trial --
You haven't had an order for CS for the time that you've been separated and while it is wrong of him not to support his child, it's equally wrong to slap him with an order that CANNOT be enforced.
I'm sorry if you don't like my opinion but from the original post, it sounded as if you were speaking of a very young child and a short marriage. I couldn't possibly have given an informed opinion without information to work with.
I also absolutely agree with you that trying to help someone that doesn't want help is just banging your head against a wall. Addicts have to decide themselves that they need help.