| imabeliever |
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| 11/14/09 08:41 PM |
New Here - Trial (yes Trial ) on Friday -
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Bear with me - I am new here ~ Don't know appropriate abbrev. so I will "try" to keep it short.
Been divorceed 10 years - 20 year marriage - blessed w/ 6 children.
Ex has played mind games (both w/ the kids and myself) all thru the 10 years.
Several years ago my new husband "made a deal" w/ my ex that we would settle for less child support than the calculation stipulated if he would be civil to the kids and I.
In order to accomplish that legally - the attorney suggested writing up the "paperwork" that he had 2 and I had 3 of the remaining minor children, even though we continued to have the 5 with us.
All these years - I never modified. He played "fair" the past 5 years - keeping visitation dates w/the kids - etc.
My husband and I now find ourselves in a financial bind from being the ones to help kids thru school and with the economy - etc.
I have 2 kids left at home and filed to modify a year ago May.
The ex is again playing games - dragging this out with motions - left a threatening message on my husband's cell that if we didn't "make a deal" again he was going to our Church - my now husband is a Deacon.
We have the cell message taped - the ex did contact the church - (what an idiot!) and he has bad mouthed me to my kids. The birth of my first grandchild was awkward because he was there - glaring.
We are FINALLY going to court Friday - October 20.
My question ~ will all the "evidence" be allowed in court??
The cell message - contacting the church - the treatment of my children ( 3 of them are now substance users)~
I would gladly settle for a chart calculation to simply be looked at and be done with this ~ Because of all his games thru out the years - I really don't know what to expect.
It has been year and a half and over $5000. in attorney fees for a simple modification.
It is not about the money - my remaining children are 15 and 17.
I will never recupe what I have spent - it is the principal of the thing.
This guys does not want to be finacially responsible for his kids ~
Any encouragement would be appreciated.
Thanks ~