| SammyJo |
| (recently joined) |
| 05/27/11 04:22 PM |
Re: CS-Motion Has Been Served...NOW WHAT!?
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Hi ssmom79, to answer your questions...on May 5th, he paid me the normal amount for CS, $276.00. Prior to that he was already in arrears for over 5K due to slow/sporadic pay over the years. Now we are up to 6K.
The week prior to May 5th, he actually gave me a check that bounced. Well let me clarify, in the past I would go directly to his back and try to cash, and if the check was not good, I would wait to cash it until it was. After the March fiasco, I just started depositing them into my bank instead of driving all the way to his to find 90% of the time I had made a wasted trip.
Currently he is supposed to pay me directly every week, but once I get to court, I am going to change that and have him pay me through the system.
Taxes - Yes and the funny thing about him not filing his taxes is this, we separated in 2003, divorce was final in 2004, so my taxes were filed for 2004 thru current separately. Well, any refunds I should have gotten over those filed years (approximately 4K), went to pay off taxes on the joint returns we filed in 2002 and 2003 when I was a stay at home mom and not even working...they applied my refunds to his SS# for back taxes. He's like the gift that just keeps giving!! So tax returns are not something they would require as proof that his income is so much less than it used to be (as he claims)? How do they prove what someone is saying about being broke, when so much cash in involved?!!
In regards to the health insurance, I attempted to get Healthy Kids through the state of Florida to help him out a while ago since he was not getting insurance for them, and I got turned down because they wanted his tax returns, and he couldn't provide them since he has not done them. My attorney is supposed to address both health for them and life for himself.
I just found out today that my attorney plans on sending him a letter asking him if he would like to now sit down and complete a full mediation regarding visitation since he has been served contempt papers, thinking that perhaps he will make a "smart" choice and know that it would probably go a lot better for him than having to go to court and explain his unreliable, erratic behavior to a judge. We shall see I suppose whether he chooses the "easy" route, or chooses to be obstinate. My main concern at this point is the kids well-being, don't get me wrong in light of the the monetary costs over the years as well as the attorney fees I am now pouring out, it would definitely be nice to get the funds, but changing the visitation is what concerns me most!! Would bringing up any of his other troubles, sales tax evasion, probation, etc. help my cause I wonder? He just lives by his own laws, doing exactly what he wants to do, exactly how and when he wants to do it...so sad that some people can just somehow skate through life like that...