| Debi |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 01/13/09 02:20 PM |
Re: ?'s about both sides of Cohabitation
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The parenting time will be written into the decree and will be very specific. The parties can agree to alter it after the fact but it is there to protect the NCP's minimum time. Just be prepared that if he does ask for more time he will more than likely get it. Him cheating on you makes him a lousy husband but doesn't , in itself prove he's not a good dad. In most states joint legal custody is presumed. There a re a few that hold out and insist on one peron having sole custody.
The truth is you are probably not going to get through this without things getting ugly and it will be up to you to decide if this clause is an issue worth pushing. I'd say that you will both have to explain your position to a judge if it gets that far and more than likely a judge is going to rule on the side of protecting the children. My guess is if he had no intention of having her there over night he wouldn't care if there is a clause. You are right in saying that you can't keep him from having her around them but there isn't a reason for her to spend the night. It could also depend on where you are located as to how easy it is. If you are in a bible belt state you will more than likely get your way.