| c_jane |
| (Pooh-Bah) |
| 04/30/07 09:45 PM |
Re: Who should have the birthday party??
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WOW!! Deja vu!! I live this every year. Ex- & I live in the same subdivision. Because of visitation, Ex- & SM ALWAYS have son the weekend before his b'day; I always have him the weekend of/after. EVERY YEAR, Ex- & SM invite his entire class, his entire Boy Scout troup, his entire Sunday School Class, and his entire neighborhood to a MASSIVE blowout. One year they bragged to me that they had 42 kids there!!! I have a very small family with only 3 kids that get invited to 'my' b'day parties. Since we live in the same subdivision, there is no one left to invite to 'my' parties.
I solved it by asking Son which kids he wanted to invite to 'my' party too, and then just inviting them. I put on the invitation that if they already attended son's b'day with his Dad, we didn't expect additional presents. Most bring him some little something anyway. Or I talk to the parents & explain how I want to have a 'friends' b'day party too, but there's no one left to invite by the time Ex/SM get done. Or I'll ask son who did they invite but DIDN'T get to come & we'll invite those kids. Parents are very understanding & my son just wants his friends there to share in TWO b'day parties. He just turned 10, so he understands about the limited presents thing too. But like I said, most kids will bring him a little something anyway.
This year, however, we got a pop up camper & begin camping. Son wanted a camping b'day so he picked 5 boys to invite & I took them camping overnight at a nearby state park. We had a blast & now THOSE boys are saying they want to wait for the party I (!!) have cuz it's the most fun!