| SamsDad |
| (journeyman) |
| 07/07/11 06:00 PM |
nothing can be done?
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A month ago, ex came to my fiance and told her she was seeing someone the last couple weeks and they were going to be meeting our daughter soon. Like any parent I had my worries about someone meeting our child after only a few weeks but its her life and I cant do anything about most of her decisions.
Two weeks later Ex came to my fiance and told her she was pregnant with this guys baby. In the same sentence she told her that she applied for medicaid and WIC and qualified and that she wouldn't be paying half of our daughters medical coverage any longer. Ex asked fiance to keep it a secret from me because she wanted to be the one to tell me. Fiance told Ex she really needed to be discussing our child's life with me directly.
Two weeks later, Ex confessed to pregnancy and stated she would be moving in with said baby's dad around September.
Now,three days later, my mother is visiting and she and my daughter were talking about dinners and what she eats at Ex's house - just a general conversation and our 3 year old daughter said "no mommy's house, ****'s house". When I was putting my daughter to sleep I asked her "do you still live at mommy's house with Auntie *** and sleep in the room with ****??" -at her current home where she is living she shares a room with her mother's roomates daughter. Her reply was "no, i sleep in my bed at ***'s house" - the boyfriend's house.
Today, I confronted the ex and asked her if she was already living with the boyfriend (whom I haven't met and don't have a clue about). She said she was "moving things over" because her roomate has two dogs she doesn't clean up after and she doesn't want our child living in that environment. I know that this means she has moved over and not only didn't discuss it with me but is trying to keep it a secret. If my three year old is aware enough to say it, then it's been going on for a while...which I kind of figured would happen but I was waiting for evidence before saying anything.
So - ex has moved to an undisclosed location behind my back with our child.
This is move #7 for her. Boyfriend #11 she has leached onto. I'm already having our daughter two extra days a week that is not in the parenting plan (so 5-6 days a week now for the last 3 months)...and there's nothing I can do???? Why wouldn't I be able to remove my daughter (legally) a couple more days a week from an already provably unstable environment?