| LexieBelle |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 08/16/11 03:32 PM |
Re: i think im going to lose..
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I'm assuming you're a troll (person who makes up a story just for entertainment value) but, will respond just for giggle and grins...
The past matters because it is, typically, a VERY good indicator of future performance. Kinda along the lines of "those who forget history are doomed to repeat it" kind of thing.
Look I'm the moved custodial parent. Like you, my ex, after years of minimal involvement, less than standard support etc, filed on his own with court, insisting how involved he'd been/wanted to be/would be. What a horrible, terrible thing it'd be for HIM, his other child, his parents. Actually not a word said about the CHILD but never mind that.
Did finally get an attorney. The move itself was basically a moot point. I had (and still do have) sole legal and physical custody. I'd been given permission when we divorced TO move (by him). It became a matter of visitation but, technically, I moved before the case was actually settled. Anywho, spent $9000 so he could get alll this time he so desperately wanted. And he kept a massive child support reduction to facilitate that extra time, him traveling to see her here (here, btw? Is 100 miles if you go by ferry, 200 if you go around by car). Wanna guess how much of that additional time he's TAKEN? Wanna bet how consistent with child support he's been?
Would it surprise you that, after costing himself many thousands of dollars to get this time. Costing me money. AND, opening up his financials so his first wife came after him for more support for THEIR child.. ultimately, it will have cost him $77,000, not a dollar of which is for OUR child... how much time does he take? How many more visits does he come see her here. a mere 100 miles away? You guessed it.. very little. It'd be close to none but it's not quite none. All this drama, all this "oh poor me, I HAVE to be involved, how DARE you rip MY child away" and end result? Yup, he's the SAME guy who didn't want to pay full child support BEFORE she moved and the same guy who wasn't particularly involved BEFORE she moved, etc. You can SAY whatever you want but? ACTIONS speak louder than words and when it comes to determining what's best for a child's FUTURE? The ONLY thing a judge can go by? Is PAST history since they are not fortunetellers.
You made your bed.. now you get to lie in it, will be my guess. Unfortunate for you, unfortunate for your child. She deserved to have a father who cared for her, fully, from day one, and not when it became convenient for him to.