| garnet |
| (journeyman) |
| 11/04/11 08:20 AM |
Re: Birthday Party drama
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All - thanks for the feedback. To clarify: I am not talking about one big family party. The party is simply dd's celebration with her friends, and I am not in favor of multiple parties with her friends. I find it to be excessive, and that it only highlights for dd - and the rest of the world - that ex and I can't get along. Of course, we will celebrate with my family during my parenting time, and I would never ask or expect to be invited any celebration solely with ex's family.
It was never my intention to force my way into ex's home, but simply posing the question of whether I should even push the issue. In light of the strong response here, I will probably let it go.
I'm not sure why it is so objectionable that this point is included in the CO - clearly the judge didn't find it objectionable and in light of the circumstances felt it was important enough to include. I know that several others on this board have been the target of alienation. In the past (and probably still now), ex was actively trying to exclude me from a milestone in dd's life. The birthday may be one small example of this, but it is a fairly significant example. If you've been there and know how that feels, try to understand where I'm coming from rather than just labeling me as petty. It was a long, emotional, uphill battle for me to go back to court over custody and fight for both dd and myself. That makes it hard to give up anything that the judge saw fit to grant in her order. I understand that practicality needs to win out over strict legality, and I appreciate the feedback on that point. But please at least try to understand my perspective.