| elliesmom |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 05/21/12 03:25 PM |
Re: Our past few weeks/update/longish
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But she didn't. He got his weekend. In spite of ALL the shenanigans - there was nothing remarkable about this weekend for court.
The fact is - he CAN relocate. Judge can't stop him. He cannot take the kids with him - which he did not do. She has no legs in the "objection to relocation." It's total crap. She is distracting.
You have to play your own game. This was a perfect opportunity to ACTUALLY prove her colors and you let it get away. Next time "Dear BM, since the kids have so much to do and since Sunday is Mother's day, maybe it would be best for them if they stayed with you and we made up the weekend ____. If that particular weekend doesn't work for a makeup please suggest another. Otherwise I will have to return the kids later on Sunday and/or they will have to miss XXXXXX. Let me know." See you then change the playing field to either YOU compromise or YOU are forcing the kids to miss stuff. And that is where you want her.
See she wanted to make it about either you don't love your kids and won't see them this abbreviated weekend OR you don't love your kids and will make them miss baseball OR you do love your kids and will do whatever I say. You need to create another option of "I see your valid point re baseball/mothersday/awesome caribbean vacation, but either we rework the schedule to accommodate BOTH special thing AND me not losing time OR they miss special stuff. Sincerely, caringreasonabledad"
And if your DH hasn't calculated an estimated CS and been paying it as of abandoning the 50-50 schedule - YOWZA. I would not want to be him when I walked into court.