| fengshui |
| (recently joined) |
| 04/28/09 05:01 PM |
Re: divorce over money... or character flaws....?
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My hubby has been laid off since January. I have felt SO GUILTY "throwing him out" without a job. He is collecting unemployment. Today is actually the first day that he's been back to work and it looks like things are going to be picking up. He isn't moving out until next month. My friend is moving out of her apartment, and it is a cute 2 bedroom near downtown in a cute trendy neighborhood and it is w/out a lease and only $495 a month WITH heat. So, it was the best situation for him to aquire this apartment from her. Hell, I wish I could take it! I'm going to be slaving away to live at the house on my own.
There has been a few recent situations where he was violent, and it was "my fault" for making him so angry. He found some text messages on my phone from a HS friend who lives in another state (I think that I mentioned earlier that I was talking to him). Well my hubby found more messages and flipped out and smashed my phone and broke a bunch of things in the house, calling me a sl*t and every other degrading term imaginable. He stayed at a friend's all weekend and then came back here, once again, pretending like it was nothing and wanting to "make up". I made it CLEAR that he IS moving out, and I am finished with his abuse and immaturity. He is actually begining to realize that he makes made so many mistakes and wants to make it work and says that he "needs to pull his head out of his @ss before he loses me". I told him that he needs to move out anyway. Actions speak louder than words. The thing is that I'm actually interested in dating other people and I feel really guitly about it. I know that I need to let things cool down, but I made my mind up a long time ago to leave him so I've felt single almost. Terrible, I know....