| KayM |
| (recently joined) |
| 12/12/09 07:51 AM |
Re: Will I have to pay him alimony?
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Mimi,
I notice, at the end, you said "I'd rather have peace than have his money." Perhaps this is part of the problem with our marriage (though this attitude wouldn't have occurred if his attitude had been better) -- but I don't think of it as HIS money. At all. He'd have had NOTHING if I hadn't worked, and saved, and invested, and made HIM be more frugal. NOTHING. His credit was in the toilet when we got together - if I remember correctly (it was a long time ago), he'd had a bankruptcy. My husband is PROBABLY bipolar, and USED TO BE a drug addict (yes, I know there's no "used to be" - he no longer uses drugs, but many of the same behaviors are still there).
But this is not a board for that discussion -- I just really hate the idea of having to continue to support him if I divorce him. The only thing that I gain then is the separation and, if I'm lucky, peace.
It's the home (not worth as much as yours - maybe $120K) and the investments (worth much more) that I would hate most to give him any of, since he contributed almost nothing to either. I would love to be able to go back and just give him WHAT HE'S PUT IN, but I'll bet that almost never happens, huh?