| faithntrust |
| (recently joined) |
| 05/09/06 11:28 AM |
Re: Blaten Disrespect/Possible affair-need opinions
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Hi!
I would suggest that you really consider the idea of "forgiveness" It doesn't mean you have to trust him right away. If you still love him and he still loves you, and you do have 4 children together that need their mommy and daddy, you must decide to work this out. If you have to separate a while to do so fine, if you can do it in the same house fine, but don't rush into a divorce. Marriage is full of ups and downs and committment. Go seek a counselor to help you both through this. I don't know what your belief is, but if you really want this to work, youboth need to ask God for His help. He can help you both and your kids, and make the marriage you both want. It will take a lot of work and a lot of committment. Believe me, divorce is not the answer. You have no idea what it will do to both of you. It doesn't solve anything, and your kids will ALWAYS be in the middle of both of you. It is a nasty thing, and you need to try to avoid it. Think of your kids, think of each other, not just yourselves. You both have to be committed to making this mistake in the past and go forward from here. Don't play the games, get serious and work on your marriage. In the long run, you and your kids will benefit more than a broken marriage.
Plese, let me know where you are and I am more than happy to give you some resources that will help you. Just give some time to trying to work on your marriage, don't rush to the lawyer.
Someone who knows---