| almostheaven |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 07/03/07 05:50 PM |
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Re: Changing Names after Divorce
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Considering the number of divorces that take place these days, its not uncommon to have kids with different last names in the same family. Some parents may not be fond of that and may want to try and keep them all the same. That may be a reason why your ex's ex wanted to name her second child the same.
When I was divorcing my second husband, my daughter (then 12) asked me if I was going to go back to my last married name. When I told her I hadn't planned to change my name at all, she told me that she wished I would cause she hated that we'd had different last names for years. Said kids at school kept asking who I was and she had to explain I was her mom...since when my name was said, it wasn't the same as hers. So I decided to go ahead and change it back during the divorce.
Now my daughter just went through a divorce about a month ago. Learning from mom, she took the no contest route. Much simpler and no sense dragging it out. She however kept her married name for two reasons. Not wanting to change her DL and SS card, and everything else (which was why I wasn't initially going to change my name), and...because of all of her dad's deeds as of recent, she wanted nothing to do with him, especially having his name.