| almostheaven |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 07/15/07 10:43 AM |
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Re: A simple question...
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You could always try an in between. You said part of you thinks you could work out the problems, but both of these "separations" were only a few days each. You need a REAL separation. If you want to leave the home, get an apt., take your clothes, TRULY separate. Maybe when she sees you're more serious this time and aren't coming right back she'll try the counseling again and stick with it this time. Maybe she won't and maybe divorce is inevitable. But if you're unsure, you need to give a real separation some time before going with the permanent solution of divorce.
And no, it doesn't ALWAYS mean the end. Many people separate for awhile then try dating again, starting out slow, and end up resolving their problems, finding whatever it was they lost. My aunt actually DID get a divorce. But 20 years later, they remarried. They were both married in between and discovered that the grass wasn't any greener and whatever problems they had over 20 years ago have vanished.