This forum has helped me to really change my thinking and to see things in a whole new way. At first I would get angry when a poster pointed out MY faults in a situation becuase I was really looking for reaffirmation that my stbx was the complete jerk that I thought he was. But instead I learned that yes, he IS a big jerk BUT I had some attitude adjusting to do as well. Now I'm beginning to be able to read a reply and take a step back and think about it before flying off the handle. I've also learned that I am only at the foot of this mountain called divorce and since my youngest is only 2 I have a VERRRY LOOOOONNNNGGGGG hard road ahead of me and if I continute to let "him" get the best of me that roader is going to be harder and more stressful than it needs to be. I'm sure I will continue to do some stupid things...I just hope that now they will be less and fewer and farther between. I also get a lot out of reading others posts even if they are unrelated to my current situation becuase I've come to understand that anything is possible in divorce and I need to prepare for everything I possibly can so I don't get blindsided. If you can look past the trolls and other hairbrained posters you find some people who have some really good advice and even ones who may come across as bitter but still have something worthwhile to hear.
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