| almostheaven |
| (Carpal \'Tunnel) |
| 01/14/10 08:21 AM |
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Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....
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Very similar to what I'm going through right now. You have a tough road ahead for a bit, but it'll get better.
My husband and I were married 9, together 12. We have one child. However, I left him due to many issues. He's not paid ONE cent and won't until court ordered, even if he does then. I know the insurance provided by his company will end upon divorce...we go to court Tuesday. But I've already made arrangements before that happens. Luckily, he hasn't gotten fired yet. Surprising since he keeps skipping work, when he claimed before he couldn't even take time off to go pick up his son. I make better money, and only have the one child, but its still difficult. When you go from 2 incomes to 1, it will become difficult, no matter how much you make. There is all kinds of help out there for you though...4 kids, $10/hr. Have you signed up for assistance? You can get assistance with groceries, utilities, housing, etc. Call DHHR. They will MAKE him pay something towards his kids, job or no job, new woman or no new woman.
I left September 21. We're going to court for a temp hearing on January 19. He didn't even get my name off the utilities until the first of December, has been late making the mortgage payment for the house he lives in with my name on it the last 3 or 4 months now. They tried serving him 3 times. When we discovered who his lawyer was, we served him through her. It takes time, but in the end, it all comes around.