| Dogone |
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| 01/15/10 07:52 AM |
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....
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income loss is devastating. i agree, sign up for everything and anything you can get. you can always decide what you need and when later. but at least you'll have something.
i think homes financed through banks typically allow 12months before bankruptcy/foreclosure.
when i went through mediation i had read many articles. my impresison was you can never count on someone else to pay, even if ordered by the Judge. and this turned out to be true. i was to be recieiving cCS and it never happened, then the sleaze bag just went to court to ask for a time to not pay, adn the judge allowed a extension! even though none had even been paid yet?
anyway. during mediation its better to get a lump sum and be done, because most CS and Alimony never happen and my lawyer said even if you are awarded most never get it, without several court trials, money $$$$$ spent on court, and the spouse can always skip a month and file for more time to pay, or difficulty hearings etc..
Get the 401K, the nest egg, the equity, get cash and or possesions you can sell.
If he was so unhappy, why in the world did we buy this house and move here?!! This is all so crazy.
--This probably happens so often. Material happiness, turns into a monster, debt=depression, took on too much too soon...so he ran away from it. Many go to another women, or a bottle of booze, or drugs.
Its real common around Dallas, I hear so many stories of it.
They call them the "$30K a year Millionaires". Living beyond their means, fake happiness based off material things paid for with 33% credit cards and leased luxury cars.
Good Luck, I agree with almostheaven sign up for everything, maybe talk to the bank for help on the house.