| hazmat1979 |
| (recently joined) |
| 01/20/10 10:51 AM |
wife has spending problems.BIG PROBLEMS!! HELP!!
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I have been married to the same woman for 3 years and we've been together for 6 total.We have a son together.She was fired from her bank position last june for unknown reasons(she gave me a reason,but told other ppl other reasons.point being she lied and covered it up). i gave her my blessing to be a stay at home mom, as long as we could pay our bills.in october i tried to use my emergancy use only credit card and i found out all 4000 was maxed out on it.come to find out she spent it all on mary k and fake jewlery.after doing a little snooping i found out she was taking cash loans and was not paying the bills on the loans. she worked up about 16,000$ in cash loans in a year behind my back not counting stealing my credit card and maxing it out on crap.she also drained my sons savings account because it was in her and his name .i asked her for the statments to his savings and she says "f-you my name is on that account so its my money too".i dont know the exact amount of the loans or what was in his savings because she still will not come 100% clean.she intercepts the mail before i get home so she has the statments hidden somewhere by the time i get home from work.when i ask her to tell me the whole amount she says "no,thats my business and if i tell you your going to hold it against me."
she screams,turns red and throws stuff,in front of my son if i "bring it up".i cannot turn a blind eye to this. she has a problem and it is out of control. i love my wife but i feel like shes drilling a hole in the bottom of the boat we're in and she will not tell me where the hole is to fix it.
im paying for a house i bought a couple years back for 32000. i owe around 22000 on it now.im driving a 10y/o truck and shes driving a car her mom gave her last year when her grand father died.i have been trying to save and pay off some small bills here and there to be able to buy us a new car and now it doesnt look like thats going to happen.she has ruined us. everyone is telling me to get a divorce but i cant afford it unless i get a loan at the moment and then its gonna get ugly in court cause im going to fight tooth and nail for full custody.i dont think a judge is going to order me to give her anything after doing this to us.i think she could be labled an "un-fit parent",and i cant see a judge ordering me to give her child support when she spent her on sons savings and stole my credit card and maxed it out and worked up 16000 in cash loans in less than a year and has nothing to show for it.i honestly dont know where the money went.shes not on drugs. maybe she gambled it away. she does love the [censored],but i dont know for sure.i can only speculate where it all went.
if someone can give me any advice on my rights in this situation i would be forever greatful.matt