| aprilellen7766 |
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| 01/25/10 06:14 AM |
Re: Getting divorced after 11 years....
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I am so sorry for you I was married for 17 years he was with usfor 10 before he wentover seas to "work" (screw around)He wanted me a stay ay home mom from the time we were first married I put so much trust in him even though he didnt deserve it (he lied all the time)on mothers day 2 years ago he sent me a dear john email telling me he has someone new and she is pregnant and that she wasnt the first that there were several but now he has to do the right thing and divorce me and marry her so his child isnt fatherless (he has 3 boys from his first marrage and 2 with me)even though he has basically not been a father to any of his children the signs were all there for me to see but i thought he was misunderstood boy what a fool I was I asked him why and he put all the blame on me (as if I picked up the woman and made him have sex with her)I know I am not perfect and I made mistakes (didnt know I was suffering from depression and needed help)but I never and would never hurt someone so bad as to cheat on them.
He lost his job in June hasnt paid anything to now (end of January)except he sent the kids christmas money for presants 200.00 which they got to buy christmas presants and he wants to call it support.I asked him once if he felt guilty for anything he has and is doing he says he has nothing to feel guilty about I asked him if he was afraid to go to hell for his actions he said he has lived and saw hell working in Iraq the thing is you will probably never get the answer you need or want cheaters lie they are to wrapped up in themselves to care about anyone but themselves
He has saw our children a total of 6 or 7 times in the past 7 years because he is to wrapped up in himself to care about seeing any of his family the reason they cheat i think they are not happy for whatever reason that they deem right in their own minds and they want to leave but they dont want to be alone when they do finally go or are caught like they have left us keep your chin up i know its hard I am gong through the same issues aprilellen