| Annie7676 |
| (old hand) |
| 04/30/12 04:20 PM |
Re: My story
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Yup you do deserve better...so do you have a plan?
Its hard to know what to do. Can you put this behind you and stay married or will it forever be there, like the elephant in the living room?
I know what you mean about being too nice...I have that trait also...I think its being codependent. I learned that from reading codependent no more.
Are you in a position to end the marriage? Thats a tough decision especially when kids are involved.
My X of a LTM cheated on me, only I didn't know it until he was gone, was the last to know.
If I had known at the time, it would have been a deal breaker. Of course most of us try to hang on and "save" the marriage. Hard to offer advice because its so difficult to know what to do.
What do you want to do? What does your gut tell you?
Are you in a position to even consider a divorce?
Do you work? Have support from family, friends, etc?
There is a saying Hope for the best but plan for the worst.
I wish you all the luck in the world with this very tough situation.