| AloneInTheDark |
| (member) |
| 09/29/09 09:20 AM |
Re: Lonely
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[quote]I filed for divorce in February and it is still not finalized. However, I find myself very lonely. My husband kind of kept me from keeping or making friends, but since he's been gone I have contacted others, I just don't feel like burdening them. It is not that I really have anything to say, but I miss the adult companionship. My husband apparently had affairs over the life of our marriage, I'm really not sure with how many or long it was going on. I don't think I'm ready for dating and I really don't even know how I would go about it. I do not really trust men and I think most of them just want one thing. Does anybody have any ideas on how to cure the loneliness? I have a young daughter so I can't just get up and go somewhere. [/quote]
Talking to people helps me. I have been without my wife for 5 weeks not and talking on internet chat or in an online game I play is my only option at the moment. With the money I send my wife for the kids and the bills I dont have any extra money to go anywhere anyway. I understand about the trust. I don't know how long it will be before I can trust again either. Be friendly yes, but the deep trust and faith I had in her wont be as easy for anyone else to earn.
As far as wanting only one thing, almost all men want it but the good ones want more since it is a 100 times better when its actual intimacy IMO. Not just a one night stand sort of thing.
Just start out being friends with someone and taking it from there. I only had one real good friend and that was my wife before she decided that she didnt want to love me any more because I was holding her back from doing whatever she wanted with other men. lol. I know what its like to be alone. I only get to talk to people in real life at my job. Thats when I dont need to because I am kept busy.
Listening to the things that upset someone are part of what being a friend is, the other is having fun with them. They will distract you when you do dwell too much on something. Also part of being a friend. You have to be willing to listen to their problems and worry's too though.