| aedensmom |
| (recently joined) |
| 06/01/10 10:15 AM |
Divorce questions
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My husband and I got married in January of this year and had our first child in February. We got married in Kentucky where he was stationed and I just moved back to NY because he is reporting to Germany tomorrow and is deploying to Afghanistan in July. We have had our ups and downs and went to a chaplain once but he didn't think we needed to go back because he said everything felt great and he thought we were fine (we went back in April). Now, out of nowhere after a great night out he says he wants a divorce. He says that he doesn't want to be married anymore and only got married so he could afford to take care of his son. I'm not sure how much of this is true because we had a lot of fun together and he would always tell me how much he loved me and was so lucky. He wants to try to get a divorce before he deploys but I don't want one.
I think that we can work through our minor problems and make things work with some counseling and time and that we owe that to our son. Would he be able to get a divorce before he deploys, especially considering he leaves the states for germany tomorrow and deploys in July?
What state would he file for the divorce? We were married in Kentucky but he was only temporarily stationed there for training and my residence is New York. He is from Texas. Would he be able to file in Kentucky or Texas without being there? Also, he hasn't lived in Texas for a little over 5 years now.
My biggest question though is: Is it normal for guys to get scared before a deployment and react this way? I didn't see this coming and we had been talking about the future and were overall happy.